Partner requests

When an event uses fixed partners, players can pick who they want to play with — without you having to broker it by text. The cleanest path is a mutual opt-in: a pairing forms when both people pick each other, so no one ends up matched to someone out of the blue.

How a player requests a partner

On the event's RSVP page, a player marks one or more people they'd like to partner with — more than one is fine, keeping options open while others are still RSVP'ing.

When two players pick each other, the partnership matches on the spot. The two names lock together, any other picks are cleared, and the pair is a fixed team for that event.

Depending on how the organizer configured the event, a player may also be able to declare a partner directly, confirming that person has already agreed. Either way the result is the same — a reciprocal pairing that both players see on their RSVP page.

If someone picks you, you may get a push notification and an email summary with a one-click "Partner with [Name]" link — tap it and, if you're both still eligible, the pairing confirms instantly.

Mutual picking keeps it safe

A pick on its own does nothing to the lineup — the pairing forms only once interest goes both ways. Picking a few people doesn't commit you; only a confirmed match does. A partnership won't form with someone who has declined the event or who is already locked in with someone else. Pick someone who never picks you back and you stay unpartnered, mixed normally.

How confirmed pairs reach the mix

A confirmed partnership is stored on the event as a fixed pairing. When you launch the Mixer from that event, those players come in already paired — the engine keeps them on the same team every round, the same as setting fixed partners by hand inside the Mixer. See Fixed partners for how that plays out across rounds.

Confirming a partner also counts as an RSVP. A player still on the fence gets moved into the field — or onto the waitlist if the event is full or inside a waitlist window.

If a partnership breaks

Either player can release the partner before the event. When that happens:

• The pairing dissolves and both players are freed to pick again.
• Both people are emailed so no one shows up expecting a partner who's gone.
• If the pair was holding spots in a full event, releasing frees those spots, and the next people on the waitlist are promoted to fill them.

If one player drops out of the event entirely (RSVPs out), their side of the partnership comes apart the same way, and the other player is freed to find a new partner.

Organizer-set pairs

You don't have to wait for players to find each other. As an organizer you can pair two people directly from the event page — useful when you're managing a group where players aren't browsing the RSVP page themselves, or when you want to seed known duos without asking them to go through the pick-and-match flow.

Pairing two players from the event page links both as fixed partners, and the pairing carries into the Mixer when you launch.

RSVP status adjusts automatically based on the event's current state:

• If a grace period is still running, both players are placed on the waitlist — organizer-formed pairs follow the same early-bird rules as self-selected picks.
• If the grace period has closed and there is room in the field, both go straight to in.
• If the event is full, both go to the waitlist to be promoted when space opens.

Players who have already RSVP'd (in or on the waitlist) keep their existing status — setting the pair just links them, it doesn't re-gate their spot.

You can also release an organizer-set pair from the event page, which frees both players. Their RSVP page will reflect that the partnership was released.

The partner digest email

When someone picks you, you get a partner digest email listing who has expressed interest and which events the pick is for. It's a rolling 24-hour summary — at most one digest per day per email address, covering new picks since your last one.

Each entry shows any intro blurb the person provided, plus the event name and date. A "Partner with [Name]" button confirms the pairing in one tap: if you're both still eligible at that moment, the partnership forms without you needing to open the RSVP page. Eligibility is re-checked at the moment you tap, so a stale link won't create an invalid pairing — if something has changed you'll see a short explanation instead.

Opting out of digest emails

Follow the unsubscribe link at the bottom of any digest, or update the preference through your account profile. Opting out doesn't affect other event emails (invites, reminders, partnership-formed notifications) — those are controlled separately.

What's next

• Setting up the event itself and turning on fixed partners: Creating an event.
• How paired players are handled once you're live: Fixed partners.
• Waitlist rules for partner pairs when a session is full: Waitlists.